Let go of the pressure to have everything figured out  

There’s no question that we are living in a time of confusion. Our schedules, lifestyles, and future plans have changed. It’s okay to feel overwhelmed.

During times of stress and uncertainty, it’s easy to either slip out of a routine or feel the need to change every aspect of your daily life. Creating large and lofty goals can help us feel in control. While having health and wellness goals is important, it’s also important to be kind to ourselves and our communities.

If you are struggling with perfectionism right now, it’s okay to loosen your self-expectations.  In fact, a great goal would be to simply try to feel a little better than you did yesterday.

If you find yourself feeling overwhelmed or frustrated by your goals and your journey, try the following:  

  • Work on smaller and more manageable ways to encourage a healthier and focused sense of wellness
    • Instead of hoping to eat well, do yoga, get 8 hours of sleep all at once…try eating a bit healthier than yesterday.
    • Sometimes, all we can do is try to feel a little better than we did the day before. For you, that may be going on a walk, waking up at a designated time in the morning or journaling each night.
  • Dig a little deeper into WHY making multiple and very sweeping changes is important right now.
    • Write down WHY you might feel the need to make drastic changes, right now.
    • Understanding your feelings and motivations may reveal paths or break down barriers for you to achieve your desired goals.
    • Are you trying to feel in control during a time of uncertainty? That’s perfectly fine and understandable, but we can only do so much in a day.
  • Resist comparing your journey to others’. There are a plethora of self-help books and “motivational speakers” and “influencers” who portray the illusion that life can be perfect if you just: “Buy this product” “Live this way” “Eat this and not that.” Life is not meant to be perfect and it’s up to you to decide what success looks like.
    • Remote learning has impacted our schedules and forced us to have even more screen time. More screen time can make it easier to compare ourselves to others online, which can increase negative self-talk and derail our goals. If you start to feel stress, pressure or lost after perusing social media, put down the phone and write down at least three things you feel grateful for right now.

Remember that we are all trying to figure out a new normal, which means letting go of the sense or need for perfection. All we can do is try a little each day. If you have wellness goals, such as stress and time management or managing relationships, try success and wellness coaching. You can learn more about individualized coaching sessions and how to sign up for a phone session at the link.